As Adam woke out of his deep sleep, he knew, without a doubt, that the person, whom God was ushering towards him, was his wife.
In a moment of great realisation and intense joy, Adam knew that the colossal emptiness in his life was now over and he burst into spontaneous and brilliant poetry. What Adam pronounced in that exquisite moment were the first marriage vows. Rightly so, isn’t it? Only the marriage vows would be fitting for that moment.
God instituted the husband-wife marriage relationship, but it had to be the man, who had to initiate and pronounce the marriage commitment. The relationship of marriage was a covenant built on the commitment that Adam pronounced. It would be wise to look closely at the major themes within the marriage covenant.
Woman is a unique creation of God, but made out of man. The husband is made complete by the woman, whom God brings into his life. Similarly, the wife is made complete by the man, whom God brings into her life. This completeness consists of every element of their personalities. It includes their physical makeup, their emotional build-up, their intellectual development, their social capabilities, their spiritual growth and their relation with the environment. Therefore, the husband and wife, in total abandon, give themselves to each other in order to make the other complete. The husband does not selfishly seek his own completeness through the marriage relationship, but he desires to make his wife complete. Similarly, the wife’s desire is to make her husband complete.
For the husband and his wife to give themselves to each other in total abandon, requires for them to delink from every other previous relationship. There remains a mandate though, for the husband and his wife to be responsible towards all of their previous relationships. They now ensure that these responsibilities are conducted within and through the development of their own covenant relationship with each other.
To nurture the husband-wife covenant relationship, they both are always in a state of celebration and romance. Yes, there will be differences, but every issue that causes a spark will result in them being drawn closer and growing fonder of each other. The sexual celebration experience is looked forward to with anticipation and excitement. This experience is reserved exclusively by God for the husband and his wife. The husband and wife therefore protect each other from falling prey to temptation in the area of sex. They guard and nurture the sexual celebration experience within the marriage covenant.
Marriage is instituted by God and under His authority, wisdom and strength we are bequeathed to enjoy great marriages. Let us not, foolishly, cast away our inheritance.